Friday, December 2, 2022

Then and Now Can Be Sad

Our Tuck
Photo by Amy LV

Students - I have written about "Fluffy" (Winnie) and "Gray" (Tuck) here before, and some of you may remember the poem I wrote about Tuck being many different colors of gray

Life is filled with all kinds of moments, and while loving Tuck was filled with joy...losing him has been filled with sadness. He was the most loving and wise boy, and the last day we saw him was October 8. Winnie got sick for a bit after he was gone, and while she is healthy now, she really misses him too. We have another good kitty named Fiona, but she is not interested in cat friends, so Winnie feels the loss of Tuck.

Today my daughter and I will visit the SPCA and perhaps we will come home with a friend for Winnie. This will of course create all kinds of craziness and need for friendship classes, but we may do it anyway. And while we will love a new cat as we always do, we will always remember sweet Tuck. We will always hope that he is out there living a good life with good people. Not knowing can be the hardest part.

Today's poem tells a story of the way something once was...and how it has changed. You can write a poem like this too if you wish. The change does not need to be a sad change as mine is - it might be a happy change or a surprising change or a strange change or any kind of change you would like to write about. And the story doesn't even need to be true at all.

You may have noticed that this is a circle poem, that is the beginning and the ending are the same. Well...almost the same. There is a change because there was a change. The saddest part of this poem for me is the verbs in the last two lines - is and was. The two cats are different from each other in this way now...

It was difficult for me to read today's poem out loud, and I have not written a lot about Tuck as I miss him so much. But I do believe that all of life is worth writing about, and so I will write about him again, honoring his soft, gray spirit.

Catherine is hosting this week's Poetry Friday roundup at Reading to the Core with a neat poem which answers an unasked question - she left the question for readers to figure out...and I happily did. She and her poetry group The Inklings all tried this out, inspired by my poem Answer. I am honored and am looking forward to reading them all. Please know that all are welcome each Friday as folks share poems, poem books, poetry ideas, and friendship.

Will Winnie Find a New Friend?
Photo by Amy LV

I wish for you a then-and-now full of joy this week. And too, a place to save and honor your own sadnesses.



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  1. So sorry to hear about Tuck, Amy. It's hard not knowing what happened, but what a special tribute you gave Tuck with your poem. Hugs to you and Winnie.

  2. I love the circle, Amy, and I am hoping the friendship classes go well - change can be hard, even when it's something one wants. xo

  3. Oh, Amy, you have hit a chord for all of us. Thank you for being so vulnerable and writing in a way that we all can relate, and help us be more vulnerable, too.

  4. Holding out hope that Tuck might turn up...My writing partner's kitty went missing for weeks; she even adopted a new one, and miraculously it showed up - skinny, hungry, but home. Thank you for the "what was once and now..." prompt. And thank you for sharing what is difficult. And thank you for loving animals.

  5. Your poem proves that parting sorrow can be sweet--I'm missing Tuck along with you. And Irene is right: #change can be hard even when it's something we want!

  6. I haven't stopped hoping that Tuck would come home. So sad for you and Winnie. I hope she gets a new friend.

  7. Thanks for writing and sharing your heartfelt melancholic poem for Tuck, I'm so sorry Amy, sending some belated hugs, xox.

  8. I'm so sorry about your sweet Tuck. Losing a pet is so hard. I hope you found a new kitty to love.